Jordan Peterson's thoughts on children are funny - he looks at things with such a perceptive eye - for the life of me I can't even fathom the idea of despising Elmo - i think it says a lot about a person who doesn't like such a sweet, cuddly and pretty competent little guy.
For many Sesame st has little appeal without that little high pitched red kid looking after and loving people.
Peterson sounds like a rather funny father to have - it's interesting thinking about Peterson as a father as so many people perceive him as a strong father figure - young men as he often points out flock to him - and he does offer a lot of insights that help men and who perhaps would've liked to have heard such pearls of knowledge from their own fathers -
but fathers - even great fathers - are a mixed bag - they work hard and long hours and if they've gone through a bit in their own upbringing it can be hard to connect with them - sometimes the son has to reparent the father - this ties into what Peterson says when he discusses ancient Egyptians myths and how the son rescues the father and heals his eye sight so he can perceive reality with his own two eyes - there's truth in this.
For all men the father son relationship is extremely important - it can also be extremely painful - i actually find it interesting when Peterson talks about his father in the first chapter of 12 rules for life - the father is a key figure and he belongs at the beginning of many stories - its funny how something as trivial as building a bird cage with ones father is not really so - its deeply serious - such events can and do permeate the existence of a boy and mans entire life - its often the case when your doing something - you don't realize how important it is until years later -
activities carried out between fathers and sons are fundamental - to a happy life -
i recall going to a field near my school with my nieces - i saw a father and son kicking a ball around - i could tell the father was good - he offered such kind words of encouragement to his offspring - the phrase I recall the most is 'good hands' - phrases and uplifting comments from one's father carry a value far more important than anything the market can stamp on them
- the son and father kept kicking the ball -
it became obvious the father was a skilled player and he was passing down his skills to his son whose own prowess was developing rapidly -
at the other end of the field was another father - he was a withdrawn loner - listening to his headphones - consumed by his phone - and simply ignoring all four or so of his kids
- he still wore chuck taylors and used a skateboard
- this father did not engage with his children - he was blind to them - it was as if he could not see them
- such a point ties in with Peterson when he mentions how the disgusting female psychologist mother who abused her son through ruthless neglect was wilfully blind to the her sons sufferings - her son was effectively being starved
- the same cut of cloth was noticeable in the second father at the school
- he was simply concerned with satisfying his own needs and not those of his own children -
the fathers oldest son alongside myself watched hungrily as the more emotionally aware and fun father (not perfect) was kicking the ball with his son
- a certain ache or vibration erupted from our chests and blew about in the wind -
to not have a father who searches you out and takes you on adventures - let alone helps you navigate and upskill on such trepidations is painful - it creates a festering a wound that is eventually buried deep inside the darkness of one's forbidden and terrifying forest of the mind.
- and yet there we were standing up tall and watching on the side lines as the golden boy played with his golden Dad - eventually we turned away and both must have thought at exactly at the same time - nice for some, nice for the blessed, nice for those who don't know the depths of suffering that a young man or young boy could ever feel
- thankfully inside oneself is the father one always dreamed of having.
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